by Prince…

You are the name of the gap in my life…

There is no paw extending friendly…

There is no meow sound asking for food…

No one touches the food waiting on the plate…

The pillow you sleep next to me is empty…

The cushion we sleep together on is empty…

My hands touching your soft feathers are looking for you…

This mouth that grows love misses you…

We wrote the same story with you every day…

The days when I started by saying “good morning” with your name…

The warmth of the sun on your golden feathers…

The deep peace in your green eyes…

Friendship that calms and gives peace…

My love, I miss you…

Green colours turned to grey…

Your friend birds don’t fly…

The flowers among which you fly no longer bloom…

The sun no longer warms…

I’m freezing without you…

There is no life, just emptiness…

I create stars from my tears of longing…  

Come and melt the snow of longing on me…

I am waiting, my love…

I’m waiting, my life friend…

I lived, and I understood that losing a pet is one of the saddest experiences in life. Losing your pet is one of the saddest experiences in life: Your dear friend, who gave you love without expecting anything, has gone to another world. It is impossible to see, touch, or feel it. Its absence is a huge void.  Loss is a substantial and deep wound that will not heal quickly. This is why the death of your best friend is brutal to accept. So, healing is hard… On the other hand, life goes on. And there are ways to come back to life… Today, I will write you a healing prescription for your wound… So that my pain can be medicine for you…

When you lose your pet, you commonly experience the following psychological effects: grief, symptoms of depression, anxiety disorders, tendency to isolate, feelings of guilt, anger, coping difficulties, feelings of emptiness and meaninglessness. These effects may differ for each individual, and the method of effectively dealing with loss may vary from person to person.

I have a philosophy of life: “Listen to your heart, use your free will.” I recommend that you apply this philosophy during the mourning period as well. Because the mourning process also varies from person to person. Grieve for as long as you need during this period. This process will have ups and downs. Sometimes you will be very sad. Or, while you think the mourning period is over, seeing someone else’s pet, hearing your pet’s name, seeing its necklace, or a particular date such as a birthday will intensify your grief… At such times, feel sad again and cry again… Some days, you will feel much better, but then you will feel depressed again. Living are the typical reactions of this process….

First, arrange a funeral that expresses loss and disappointment. This ritual will help control your pain and reduce grief. Leave farewell messages in the box. Light the candles. Plant flowers… Cover with dried scented flowers…

Then, create a monument. The location of this monument can be your garden or a corner of your house. You can reserve a special place for your pet’s belongings, such as its collar, toys, photos, clothes and blankets, or have a plaque made with its picture and name… If you feel even worse, remove this monument…

It is essential to face this pain. So don’t hide or ignore your sadness. Tell, cry, talk out loud to your dead friend… Use sentences like “Look, I’m so sorry. I’m in so much pain. Why did you leave me?”.

If you lose a pet, people often become less caring and impatient. Most people will need help understanding the bond you have with your pet. They may encounter reactions such as “It was just a cat. It was just a dog. Don’t exaggerate, get over it”, or “You can always get another cat or puppy”. However, people who have lost their pets should be given every opportunity to express their pain. Do not pay attention to these people. Find a capable, compassionate person on whose shoulder you can put your head.

Do you feel guilty about your pet’s death? Almost all pet owners feel guilty, regardless of the cause of death, even though they love their pets very much and would do anything. This is because people feel responsible for their pets and blame themselves for their deaths. Trust your logic; there was nothing else you could do to keep them alive.

Write down the moments you spend with your pet in a diary. Even write letters to your pet. Let the first letter start the day it comes home. And let the letters continue until the day they died.  Such a diary reminds you of your feelings and thoughts and allows you to express them again. This album may contain pictures of your pet, memories of unique places you’ve visited, and other mementoes.

Volunteer at an animal shelter. But that’s normal if you can stand being around other animals. You may still need to be ready.

At first, his absence from your home may upset you greatly. Especially with the lack of activities you do with your pet, the gap in your daily schedule created by the absence of time spent with them can be painful. To do this, you can acquire new hobbies. You can learn a language or play a musical instrument. You can go for a walk. You can spend time with your friends and socialise.  

Take your time getting a new pet. Even if your home is quiet and empty, it’s usually best to wait. It would be best if you had time to work through grief and loss before starting a new relationship with a new pet. You may resent the new pet because it is trying to replace the old one.

Instead of the last word: Time is the cure for all pain… You will leave your grief to time…

I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss… Rest in peace…